So I came across a tweet, by one @preshi__ asking who made the law that the wife must be younger than the husband when it comes to marriage.
Well, Africa, was my first answer. In my own opinion, that is a very poor mentality, using age to define marriage. Let’s get this straight. That you as a man is older than your wife, neither means your marriage will be perfect nor she will respect you. Even our parents who followed this so-called “Mental law” still quarrel and fight, and if you go deeper to know the cause of the quarrel, nothing concerns it with their age or so whatever.
or tell me, have you seen your mum who is younger than your father, saying: “it’s not because you are older than me” or the other way round a man to his wife: “I’m older than you”. So then, why do we define marriage with age? I stand to be proved wrong.
I am not saying that it is a bad idea or belief, all I am saying is that it is a matter of choice and option. That as Male, you married someone older than you doesn’t make you less sensible or an outcast. We should get rid of this poor mentality, besides, I have dated girls, and all of them so far are older than me. Age was not a problem.
A very short story: I was having a one on one discussion about relationships with a lady, She was gisting me about her current relationship, and she loved the guy so much, and so on and so forth. But, then had a problem with him, when he asked for her hand in marriage, and she declined. I asked her why, and she said: “because he is younger than me”
I was like W*F, but you have been all smiles and enjoying the relationship, the way you talked to me about it, I wished I was in the guy’s shoe. She didn’t know what to say. The only thing that came out from her mouth was, it’s just age.
Hey, you reading this post, will you choose not to marry your happiness and joy and then opt for a lesser option just because of age? Drop your comments.
chambersonline9
I think it matters.
Lawrence Nippysky
So what’s your reason??
Queen
No. The wife must not be younger than the husband, I believe it doesn’t matter but yet depends on the couple involved
Lawrence Nippysky
Thank you very much….but why do our parents see to it that it matters
Joseph Chikeme
I think it’s important because that believe system is already installed on our women so for such a change in reasoning Nigeria has to get to that high point of civilization that encourages civil rights more like less judgement on people choice and way of live.
Lawrence Nippysky
Choii…I dash you this blog…its your own now…nice one
Oluchi O
I think it matter’s women then to look older than men naturally. U can see a man and woman of the same age but the woman looks older than the man tho ladies have started working on themselves tho and aside that a woman will respect a man more older than her than she would to a man that’s of the same age or younger.
Lawrence Nippysky
Hmm this is an opposition..but you have a point..and like I said it’s a matter if choice
Theo
I just feel it’s because women tend to look older at the same age.
Lawrence Nippysky
lol. really?? so know you indirectly defining marriage with beauty. where is now the love?
EMIZ
I love it. I don’t think age should be a barrier to our happiness. Although we have been groomed to that kind of mentality, I knw of someone who is married to a guy she is older than with three years but you would never knw. It is high time we stop dis mentality of age is d cause of our not being married. I knw some people will refer to d bible but seriously asides Abraham nd Sarah that their age were mentioned I don’t think any other person’s age was specifically mentioned neither did d bible made an obvious declaration that a man must be older than a woman before he/she can get married.
Lawrence Nippysky
Good point dear…and the bible stories Is like how many centuries ago….can’t be same level of thinking with then and now
Hilltop
As Africans, a wife is supposed to be a helper and a helper in certain sense is supposed to be a younger person.
Lawrence Nippysky
Ah senior bros….na lie oo..how na….you are making your own law oo
EMIZ
I love it. I don’t think age should be a barrier to our happiness. Although we have been groomed to that kind of mentality, I knw of someone who is married to a guy she is older than with three years but you would never knw. It is high time we stop dis mentality of age is d cause of our not being married. I knw some people will refer to d bible but seriously asides Abraham nd Sarah that their age were mentioned I don’t think any other person’s age was specifically mentioned neither did d bible made an obvious declaration that a man must be older than a woman before he/she can get married.
OKEH Patrick
Women age younger than men that’s why men prefer younger ladies. It only becomes a barrier when the woman is dragging age with ur mom When she’s not bastardly rich
Lawrence Nippysky
Lol. Guy